The internal focus or one’s self-self relationship is a crucial aspect or ingredient necessary to have a saner existence.

Inner self awareness leads to a competent internal grown up. I tell my clients that my job is to teach them how to develop a good internal grown up and competent “internal psychologist.” As this aspect grows they then will accomplish solving the problems they came to see me for and then can fire me!

In terms of being a conscious single, it is imperative that we have a healthy relationship with ourselves before we can have healthy interpersonal relationships.

How can we be intimate with others if we aren’t intimate with ourselves? And becoming intimate requires us to be conscious and, as said earlier, internally skilled.

The external focus is simply the development of successful behavior strategies for meeting others and how to healthily go about dating. This can range from how you put yourself in a position to meet others, to evaluating your expectations, or to maintaining the basket theory of dating (as in don’t put your eggs in just one).

There is much more to say and explore on the topic of being conscious and being a conscious single. What I want to do is to assist in making the journey to healthy connectedness easier and imbued with a sense of positiveness.

The Member Area of the Conscious Singles Website is a place where there is lot's of room to say, be, interact and connect as one conscious being.  We loved to have you part of this ride.

I would love your response or questions! Dr Joel

Other ideas on Being Conscious

In a book called Awareness (1970), John Stevens notes in the introduction to this book that it's incredible how much you can realize about your existence by simply paying close attention to it and becoming more deeply aware of you own experiencing.

He continues to remark that there are (even in 1970) a lot of self improvement books that tell you how to change yourself. When you try to change yourself, you manipulate and torture yourself, and mostly you just become divided between a part of you that tries to change and a part of you that resists change.

Even when you do accomplish change in this way, the price in conflict, confusion, and uncertainty.

He maintains that his book is based on the discovery that it is much more useful to simply become deeply aware of yourself as you are now. (p.1-2)